My Journey Through Divorce Beyond the Physical Realm 101

Message from Spirit:  Each individual, no matter how small, is able to choose either alignment or misalignment.  As spiritually aware parents, we can help our children to remember how it feels to be in flow with universal energy.

~ Positive Energy ~

This is a story of assisting a young child in choosing the path of non-resistance.

My youngest son has been feeling very angry and frustrated since the onset of divorce last fall.  Not only do I feel his misalignment at home, but his teacher and classmates feel it as well.  He has been using his body to act out in a negative pattern, hitting, kicking, making loud noises and mistreating the belongings of other people.  Recently, he began refusing to talk to me about his actions and his feelings, shutting me out with defiance.

~ Clash of Will ~

My Earth Angel felt this resistance and called me one day, offering a new tactic to use when he hits this self-made brick wall.  She suggested telling him that until he agrees to talk, he will not have it, be it or do it, whatever it is that is his favorite activity in the moment.  And, of course, to back this up with consistent consequences.  She also had the idea to use dimes and to begin placing them on a piece of paper so that he could count how much money or points he was losing, as the number of dimes increased, the amount of repercussion also increased.  This concrete formula for teaching responsibility struck me as not only sound, but fool proof as well.

The next day I had the opportunity to say the “You will not have it, be it or do it” technique when he refused to discuss his behavior in school.  These words acted like an energetic slap into alignment for my son because he immediately changed his tune and talked about the incident and his feelings.  It was a productive development in what was becoming a negative pattern of self defeating actions for my son and since this first time I have had to use this same catch phrase only one more time this week… PROGRESS!!!

And this is another step in healing for both myself and my son.

In Gratitude, Beth

“I’ll Not Ask Others to Become Different for Me… Let your Vibrational Escrow percolate, and you do your best to give it your undivided attention so that you become a Vibrational Match to it. And then, when the Law of Attraction brings all of it together and brings you, because you’re a match, together with it – then there aren’t any bugs to work out. Don’t ask the person, or people, that helped you to define what you want to become what you want so that you can have what you want. (Oh, that was so good.) Instead, let them be the Step One part of it (the asking part). Use your willpower and your decision to focus upon what you want – and then the Universe will bring you what you want.”

— Abraham

My Journey Through Divorce Beyond the Physical Realm 100

Message from the Heart:  Sometimes when you least expect it, you receive a message so lovely that you know it has been touched by angels.

~ Loving Guidance ~

The bond between a mother and her children is very penetrating.  It can be felt beyond lifetimes it is so intense.  And during my self-focus on healing through this divorce, I have heard many, many hurtful comments from my 2 young boys.  It is such a familiar happenstance that I easily ignore it or use it as an avenue to open up discussion on their feelings through this process.  My youngest son is more likely to talk about his feelings than my older who generally denies any emotions on this topic.

~ Happy Happy ~

And today I heard for what feels like the first time some positive supportive energy from both my sons.  It happened out of nowhere.

“Mom, we will change our name to Buckley now, right?” my oldest asked.  Buckley is my maiden name and I explained to him the whole name change thing with our culture.

“Well, when you get married again your name will change again, right?” he asked.

And before I could answer, my youngest chimed in, “Mom, I want you to get married.  I want you to be happy.”  And at that moment I could sense by the look in his eye that my oldest agreed.

So we talked about the fact that first I need a divorce then time to heal and be with family… then I will remarry.  And the whole conversation had an uplifting energy about it, not that the boys want to replace their father, but that they want me to move on and they are in the moment expressing acceptance.  It felt weird and yet comforting at the same time.  At 6 and 9 these boys still surprise me.

In Loving Kindness, Beth

“You can be happy or sad, it doesn’t matter. You get to choose. You can go this way or that way. You get to choose. Figure it all out as you go. There’s not one right path. There are many right paths. Do anything you can do — which means think it or speak it or do it — that makes you feel a little better.”

— Abraham